Got rejected? time to stand up!

I believe everyone ever felt rejected in their life — failed to attend certain university, failed to pass exam, got rejected to join an organization, or simply got love rejected.

I know the feeling when you feel rejected and feel very disappointed because life goes with the thing that it should not be(according to your own thought). I do ever felt rejected in my life, even worse because in this year I felt rejected like a lot. I got rejected when I applied for both modern and traditional dance in my university, I also got rejected 5 or 6 times when I applied for MUN competition team, being part of a committee, scholarship, and even volunteer program. Yes it hurts when you got rejected like a lot, you must feel like you are the most stupid person in this world or feel like a loser. Those questions might circling around in your mind and you could not move on from that, especially if it is the thing that you really want most. Yes! I-know-the-feeling! Feel sad it's actually okay.. but if it takes so long it's really not healthy at all because your sadness will turned to be sort of depression. Do you know the effect of depression? lose weight, lose spirit, think of suicide, and many other things. scary huh?

Then.. what should we do when we felt rejected?

At first, it is fine to express your sadness like crying or be alone. But make sure to limit your sadness for certain period of times. 3 days or 1 week for instance. You are the one who know yourself very well so you must know which rejection should last for how long, make sure it is not that long.

Once you feel done with that, try to think about the rejection that you've got. Still sad it's okay, but this is the time for you to finally think and do self-introspection. Because in previous phase your brain and your heart are not balancing each other which make you could not think well.

What kind of self introspection do I have to take?

LEARN FROM MISTAKES!

Think of the reasons why you got rejected. Ask yourself!

Did I already put my best efforts?

Did I already do the thing that other winners do?

Did I do it well?

If you already find the answers, time for you to STAND UP and NEVER GIVE UP.

Imitate those winners strategy and use it in your next battle!

experience is the best teacher, so if you failed a lot in your previous battle. At least you know the field well in your next battle better than anyone. It's a good thing right?

Believe me, those who never give up will reward something unpredictable

Believe in yourself that you could do it, and good luck!

Exercise is da real cure for your problems

Exercise is very identic with lot of sweat and exhausted, which make lot of people do not like exercise or choose not to do exercises, especially when they are having problems (I know some will choose to only laying on bed like me, or take cigarettes to let the nicotine temporary calm you). But believe me I have more effective pain cure for you problems... and it's EXERCISE!

Since I was kids I accustomed to do outdoor sport activity that required me to move my body and produce lot of sweat!(maybe this was the reason why my body was so tanned HAHA) I joined traditional dance and basketball in my elementary school, I joined Taekwondo in my Junior High, and joined Cheerleader in my secondary school(up until now this is the best sport that I love), and in my University there are no sport activities that make me feel interested to join so I decided to not join any. But it doesn't make me stop to do sports. I joined Muay Thai class near my house and sometimes I do morning run, or just simply do some push-up, sit-up, and squat before I go to sleep.

You probably think I do sports because I like it and already accustomed to do sports so it will be easy for me to do sports in any condition. NO! accustomed to sports only help to motivate me to do sports, but believe me it was also hard for me to do sports in such unstable condition. But I have a trick! Every time I feel not in the mood to do sports, I always remember the benefit of exercising. The very benefit that I personally got from sports are I become less stressful, I rarely got sick, and I can sleep well! This is actually the very very benefit that I look for. Because recent weeks I had lot of things in mind which made me could not sleep at all and could not do any sports activities(bcs problems made me too lazy to do anything) I could probably sleep at 6 in the morning, or sleep at 2 but wake up every half n hour. This problem also made me loss my weight up to 4kg in a week. Crazy huh? Since I've been stuck in such suck situation, I decided to do sport activities again rather than crying everyday on my bed(believe me it just make things worse!) so with all the remaining energy that I have, I try to fight my sadness and do exercises.

FUILAAA... IT'S MAGIC

WHY?

1. I used to drain my sadness by crying over and over again, which is not healthy since you gonna feel unwell after that such as headache. But with exercises I could drain my sadness with more positive ways. In Muay Thai, I have to punch and kick the punch bag. So when I punch or kick this punch bag, I just have to drain my sadness and disappointment to this punch bag. A simple exercise like running could also help! every time you feel sad, run and run as fast as you can and imagine you are running from your past and try to reach your future (this works in me)

2. I used to sleep unwell -- anxious and frequently wake up, but now after doing exercise I'm able to sleep well because after you doing exercise no matter it is 2 hours or only half n hour, your body will be so tired and you automatically will sleep well. And be reminded exercise also help you to reduce stress since exercises produce endorphins(sort of chemical in brain that trigger your mood) which makes you feel less stressful and do not have to think about a thing that burden your feeling soo you definitely could sleep well!

It's da real cure man! You have to at least try it!

For those of you who never have daily sport activities or even do not like it. Always remember the benefit of exercising! And if you want to try but still doubt yourself, don't worry! try to motivate yourself to out from your sadness and your problem with more positive ways rather than let the sadness control you and you will never out from it.  

Do you want the sadness control you? or you control the sadness by a simple thing like exercising?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  

Do I Need Volunteer Job?

Should I become volunteer? Do I need this?

I understand some people might get confuse or uncertain in taking job as volunteer, and I also ever think about that before. Some people think that volunteer is bullshit, only spend your time, or even it spends your money a lot. On the other side, some people might probably think volunteer is actually cool because my CV gonna look cooler and I'm gonna have lot of friends.

it's good, but it is actually more than that...

The best thing about being a volunteer is you could give your real contribution to help others without ask anything in turn and you could make other people happy. And imagine if you join volunteer that could be beneficial and give insight to other people. Hmm.... Never thought a small thing could be this cool huh?

Let me take example of my last volunteer job that I joined. For 3 days I had to give knowledge and information about sexual violence to new students in 3 different senior high school in Jakarta each day. When I taught in the school, I could see that students were still taboo with sexual things and indeed most of them did not know the form of sexual harassment and violence. I saw that their understanding was not that good. Some were only considered sexual violence as free sex, some said sexual violence was the thing that Saiful Jamil did..

O....Kay...

But we know that it is more than that. A small thing like peeking or kissing without consent (although this person is ur bf/gf) are the examples of sexual violence too that they might never thought about this before. When I finished passing this knowledge to the students, you don't have to actually ask them whether they understand or not, but you can see the differences afterwards (which proven by pre and post test that I given). The differences which you finally take a step to contribute to help your surrounding and your country's future to stop sexual violence that start from them. From them to be aware with their surrounding, and be brave to speak.

This is the thing that even money would not be able to pay. When you could give insight to them, they understand, and they could implement this in their life, that's more than enough :")

Remember, volunteers are not get paid not because they are worthless, but because they are priceless.

Still doubt yourself you could contribute this big? Try & Start now! See what will you get, Gluck ;)

Say no to Sexual Violence

Every 2 hours, 3 women experiences sexual violence in Indonesia  

Crazy huh? Seeing the urgency of this issue, I decided to be involved in fighting this sexual violence that currently happens in Indonesia. I found indorelawan.org website as a platform for those people who are interested in volunteering jobs. In there I found Lintas Indonesia Community who need volunteers to help them raise student awareness in junior high school and senior high school during orientation days.

Through this, I feel that I could give my real contribution to help my country and my surrounding to prevent sexual violence. Sounds cliche, but this is actually true. We always "pity" others for what have been done to them and frequently blame the government who cannot give protection to us. They actually did, but sexual violence is like a person in a rugby game — you are very prone and vulnerable to actually be hit by strangers or even your closest friends. Thus, the best person who could actually protect us is ourselves. Unfortunately, people do not realize this, that is why I really want to help in passing this info to those students through Lintas Indonesia.

Start to speak!

Wherever or whenever you witness sexual violence or even become the victim of that, this is the time for you to fight back! Fully erase common stereotype that says woman is weak and could easily be harassed, no we are not! Show them that we deserve to be respected, and those people do not have rights to do such things to us.

Therefore, I invite girls and women out there to be aware of your surrounding. See, Listen, and Speak wherever you witness/experience sexual violence.

Hereby I put this link for your self protection against sexual violence :D Read this, and Be safe!

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0BxIrvFlx39VEWjdDcC1neENicGs/view

The past 2 years

Hey, it's been a long time since I have not checked my blog!

My last post was in 2014 and now it's 2016 he he he he

I probably will [reuse] this blog simply to share my stupid x unimportant life or to share my feeling

when you do not have somebody to talk to, a blog is probably a solution to relieve your pain :)

soo.. what did I miss in the past 2 years?

• I was accepted in English Literature, Universitas Indonesia.

Unfortunately, I did not get accepted in medical school so I could not be a dentist although up until now I'm still dreaming.. 

• Since I talked a lot about my ex Kevin, I would say that I got another bf Fiki for only 10 months, and Antoni for approx 2,5 years (he was not my bf, but we were so close like a couple)

Fiki was a very nice person, he treated me like princess. I could say that he loved me that much at that time. But unfortunately it did not last long. From him I learn to stick with someone who love you and do not look for someone who you think is better than your partner, coz remember your partner knows someone that is better than you but he never leave you for other girl ;) 

Antoni was also a nice person, I am very blessed that I was surrounded by people who love me that much :") Antoni was kind of person who did not vividly show he loves you but you can feel his love. He extremely fought for our relationship, but yes it was my fault again who made him finally gave up and sadly I could not do much and our relationship came to an end. 

• I was appointed as AIESEC youth winter ambassador 

So.. I applied for AIESEC program in my university and I got accepted. I was sent to Kosice, Slovakia to teach students in there. I taught them about Indonesian cultures and self development skills. I met lot of people from different countries and it was such an unforgettable moment for me. 

• I joined Model United Nations which is so happening right now

ever heard about MUN? yes in UI it is very hard to actually be part of the club. I'm blessed that I got accepted in my second year in my UNI. 

• I was appointed as UI representative for EUROMUN in Maastricht, Netherlands.

This opportunity only come to those UI MUN Club members. Since I was the member of UI MUN Club, I got a chance to join the simulation and got accepted to represent UI in EUROMUN Competition in Maastricht for 4 days. It was a very tough competition I could say. 

• I won 2 MUN competitions. I finally know something to write in my CV :")

Alhamdulilah... because I was accepted in EUROMUN team, I need to practice for about 5 months or so. As part of the practice, It's obligatory for me to join at least one competition before we are going to the real field (EUROMUN). Thus, I chose Nottingham MUN in Malaysia because I want to practice international MUN field. I was shocked that I won 2nd place :") 

The second MUN competition that I joined was IMASION that held in Jakarta. This is the competition that I joined after EUROMUN. This is not obligatory, but I really feel that I have to win something since I did not have national mun award and I did not win anything in Netherland. Blessed that I won 1st place :") 

• I am about to enter the 7th semester in English Department, oh kill me! 

People say that this semester will be the toughest semester that English Dept students probably will get. I have to deal with academic journal and make a real drama for drama class. Hope I can survive and maintain my gpa. 

I think those are the things that you probably missed for the past 2 years :D